Ever feel like your family is just full of crap? I do! Worst of all my family is Asian and with that comes all the culture and gossip that they love to do. I say that because I'm so upset at a couple family members who have nothing better to do than meddle into other people's business. I'm talking about my own grandparents (I'm not afraid to rat them out and put them on blast). It started with my grandmother calling me up out of the blue and asking me if I was going to my cousin's 1st birthday party this weekend. I told her that I was going to be present. She asked me if I was going to take my baby along with me and I said "Of course, she's young and she has to go where ever I go." My grandmother then goes and calls my mother pleaing to not take our familiy to the birthday because she says that the extended family is going to be there and talk/gossip about my situation-asking questions about the baby and if I'm married which I'm not afraid to answer. She also said that we would be embarrassing them as well as yourselves and that our reputation would be ruined (what reputation right? I don't think our family even has a reputation to uphold). Basically she didn't want me there or my baby because she was afraid that people would ask about Eden and want to know the story. I'm not afraid to tell people. I'm not gonna lie about it.
What's even more upsetting to me is that my grandmother would not acknowledge the fact that Eden is her great-granddaughter. My mother defended me against my grandmother's words and I'm so happy that I have her because my mother wants to be a part of her granddaughter's life and see her grow up. My mother told my grandmother, "What do you want me to do, not let Holly and Baby Eden out of the house so that no one will know who they are because that's really unrealistic!" My grandmother's response was "Just don't bring her around the family." I was so pissed off and that was the final straw that totally made me lose respect for my grandparents. For them to say that is by far hurtful! These people say they are God-fearing people and they go to church every Sunday. They care more about what people think and say. They care more about reputation than setting it straight. I just can't believe these people. People are going to pass judgement regardless. I use to care but now I don't. I have to do what's right for me and my baby!
My relationship with my grandmother is now over. She's lost her relationship with all of her children and grandchildren. I was the only grandchild who would come and visit her; basically took care of her when she was sick. For her to say shit like that is completely out of character from the bible if she says she's a true Christian because when Judgement Day comes, only God can judge. Oh it gets worse, the next day, my mother receives an email from my grandfather. It was their final plea for us not to go to the birthday party which they were not invited because my uncle also has beef with his mother (my grandmother). Funny how everyone doesn't want a relationship with my grandmother. They gave an ultimatum saying that if we attend, they don't want anything to do with our family, basically don't visit or talk to them. How childish is that!!! It saddens me that they are like that and I understand that they are from the old country but they really need to get over themselves. I don't see why if they have beef with me, they are taking it out on my daughter and bring her into this. When the extended family sees Eden, they see a baby and her innocence. They're defenseless and should not have anything to do with family drama.
Being a mother, I wouldn't want my daughter to have to go through any of this. I don't want her to be surrounded by negativity. Maybe ending the relationship with my own grandmother is a good thing and I don't have to hear her judge me anymore. I don't stand for what she says and believes in. Sometimes burning a bridge is better in order to protect my daughter from the hurt that was being said. I know my decision was right. My grandmother is missing out on meeting an extraordinary and amazing person. Sometimes people let opportunities pass them by, I'm not missing this one!
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